Tag Archives: Cheri-Huber

How Insight and Loving-kindness Free Us from Mental Parasites

In an earlier post entitled “Taming Elephants-How To Transform Negative Habit Energies,” I shared teachings from Thich Nhat Hanh on how to deal with what he called “habit energies.” As Thầy, as Thich Nhat Hanh is affectionately known by his students, writes: “We know how strong, how powerful the habit energy is. We notice that […]

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How the Need to Be Perfect Creates Self-hate

“Adopting the belief that you must be perfect is the perfect set up for self-hate.  You believe that your choices are to be perfect or to be a failure.  BUT SELF-HATE SETS THE STANDARD OF PERFECTION, and you can bet you are never going to meet that standard. If you did, if you met that […]

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Dharma Bite-How Do You Treat Yourself?

Dharma Bites—little dharma snacks to feed the heart and mind “If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of that person a long time ago.” Cheri Huber talking about self-hate in There is Nothing Wrong with You

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How to Silence Those Self-sabotaging Inner Voices

You really should do something about those voices you’ve been listening to!  No, I’m not saying you’re crazy! I’m talking about the inner “voices” we all listen to, consciously, and unconsciously. Yes, those voices—the ones in your head that say you’re a failure, that you’re no good, that you will never get ahead, that you’ll […]

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